hi, i’m back on the weekly stack. excuse my momentary lapse in judgment where I nearly forgot that just about everyone might care about steak and overpriced lipstick design as much as I do.
writing is an interesting hobby, when you’re really fucking sad it can be really easy to write and really hard to hit send all at the same time. and similarly, when you’re flying real high it can be really easy to write and hit send all at the same time. my draft purgatory is building like a looming email you don’t want to get back to. sometimes, I’m like, well who cares?? but then by the grace of god and the chaos of Vegas on a Wednesday morning, and just a teeny microdose of adderall—I realized, well, I do…
musings—
01 helene & milton relief funds 💔
02 creativity often comes through the quiet and discipline of the mundane.
03 you don’t need to feel AMAZING EVERY DAY. i’ve found that our healing-obsessed culture, my immigrant parents, and myself alike believed if you have anxiety (or anything outside feeling 100% amazing) something is wrong and needs to be fixed. but the truth is, if you’re feeling anything, it’s best to just be with it, stray from the stories and going into the doing and fixing and just allow it, welcome it with open arms, feel it. trust its momentary, it will pass. nothing is wrong, nothing means anything, you’re just human.
04 not every problem needs a voice, but she does need a name.
05 if you’re quick to assume, you’re quick to judge.
06 how you vent and to whom can keep you stuck in said feeling (see 03).
07 « is it me or is everyone upping their protein intake??» not everything in a sexy package tastes good. make all cheeky sexual references as you will, but I’m talking about my friend David here. unfort for me, not everything that looks like a Power Bar, tastes like a Power Bar. but it is a good reminder that packaging matters, research matters, science matters, MED matters, etc, etc., it’s proven that when you look good, when you feel good, you do good and you attract good. but it’s also a good reminder that sometimes, try as you might, things in a shiny package may not be a fit.
«I’ve tried every flavour of Barebells, and sure, they will be stocked in my pantry, but I have to stay I still prefer the crunch of Misfits»
well designed treats
01 this perfectly curved byredo lipstick is really doing something for me.
02 so much so, i bought nearly the same shade in this prada lipstick, because the tube was just so alluring.
«this three pack of minis is a good way to dip your toes before committing- hack: i use the mini quartz for my cheeks and mini mahogany for both lip ‘n cheek…which reminds me, this Chanel lip tube with tint on one side and floss on the other is my favourite lip colour turned blush/ I have soft rose and intense rosewood»
03 I’m thinking on acquiring these martini glasses I drank out of last week that—perhaps unintentionally or intentionally, have a dimple, exactly, where your thumb rests at the base of the glass.
«form X function»
04 this cybergalactic Alessi spoon rest I just acquired.
05 & even cuter these heart-shaped spoons I haven’t bought, but I’d like to gift to someone.
06 or even better this cybergalactic Alessi portable duster that look like a phone from the Jetsons for upstairs ocd needs.
«I’m usually a classicist when it comes to utility, loafers by a Gucci, or vacuum by a Dyson but sometimes, sexiness supersedes function—think…wearing heels on a citibike to work»
07 this “work” / everything bag that yes, does a hold a 16-inch MacBook pro.
08 ugly shoe purchase of the quarter: Simone Rocha crocs.
09 last and most importantly. this Carl Auböck “foot” wine opener. if you don’t celebrate the designs of Carl Auböck yet…and you care about anything good and right in this world...you’re in for a treat.
the thing is not every thing in your life needs to be the best…but does it? but i do believe you can curate a life that feels good for you. for me its about thoughtful design and efficiency. when your environment feels good, you feel good. it’s why Marie Kondo is a hit and organizers have a job and container store rules and tennis outfits are so chic. when things are easy on the eyes, they’re delicious to the soul and the combination creates impact.
this isn’t about putting on a great outfit and smile and hitting send when you feel like shit…but it also kinda is. because sometimes you gotta fake it til you make it. sometimes people won’t give a shit and sometimes people will.
«but sometimes you also have to lay in bed and cry and watch sex and the city for the 80th time front to back»
sometimes you gotta move into the direction of your dreams despite whatever emotion has come up and despite whatever else is happening in your life.
sometimes, you’ll have a restaurant full of people and be the hottest place in Miami and be negative in the bank account— as our friend and hospitality guru turned music manager Jason Odio so eloquently told me over drinks in the most recent episode of [subject to change]. it’s not really about faking it, more than it’s about reframing it.
«the business of creating a fun time for others is not easy as you think»
this conversation with Jason expanded a lot for me—male dating, male heartbreak, male perspective and the difference between perceived success and monetary success.
so what I’m really getting at here is just buy the curved lipstick, you won’t regret it. x